My Son!
Love is not usually the problem.
Confidence is not either.
I know this because of my son.
I have a son, Adrian, who is the joy and delight of my life. He always has been. I adore him. He is my champion, my hero, my pride and joy. To be fair, my girls are just as wonderful, but today this story belongs to my son.
I’ve never doubted his love for me. I’ve never doubted his confidence in me. When he needs help, he knows exactly where to go. He knows I will answer the phone. He knows I will listen. He knows I will help.
This confidence inside love is where our story begins.
And it is also where many of us begin with our heavenly Father.
This reflection uses the story of my son to explore how confidence, love, and response shape our relationship with God. It looks at why God invites His children to help, and how love grows when we learn to answer Him.
My Son and the Confidence of Love in Action
Adrian has always known I am there for him.
When he needs money, advice, a sounding board, a doctor, or help thinking something through, he comes to me. He does not hesitate. He does not wonder if I will respond. He knows I will.
Mom is always there.
He knows my credit card still works in times of need. He knows my door is open. He knows my care does not stop just because he is now a successful 33-year-old who can support a family.
That part of our relationship feels settled. Safe. Certain.
When My Son Is Asked to Help Me
The other direction does not always work the same way.
My son has skills now. Real ones. Skills that help him every day. Skills that would also help me greatly in what I do. He understands things faster than I do. He solves problems I struggle with.
Yet asking for his help often brings a pause.
“Mom, I’m too busy.”
“Not now.”
“I can’t.”
“Just google it.”
“Pay someone.”
It usually ends with, “I love you, Mom, but …”
Before judging my son, pause.
Think about how often we answer our Father in the same way.
“I Love You, Lord, But …”
How often has God asked you …
To spend time with Him.
To step away from business.
To trust Him.
To give.
To love.
To forgive.
To not fear.
And how often has your answer sounded like this.
“I love You, Lord, but I’m busy.”
“But not now.”
“But later.”
“But someone else can do it.”
The love is real.
The trust is real.
The response is delayed.
When Love Changes Its Tone
There came a moment when I truly needed help.
I wanted to finish the God Enchantment website. I could not reach Marc, my ever-willing assistant. My son was the only person left to ask.
But he had excuses.
My love for my son did not change.
My patience did not disappear.
My kindness remained.
But my approach shifted.
I reminded my son of how often I help him. I reminded him I am always available. I reminded him love does not only receive.
Then I changed my tone.
Payment would be required.
Not money.
Time.
Skill.
Attention.
It worked.
The website went live.
When God Invites Us to Respond
God does not ask things of us because He lacks strength.
He asks because He wants relationship.
Scripture says we are co-workers with God.
That means He does not keep us at a distance. He invites us to participate in what He is doing. He includes our hands, our time, and our willingness. Not because He cannot act alone, but because love includes.
You are not optional in His plans.
You are not a spare part.
You are involved on purpose.
There is another moment in Scripture where God asks a simple question.
He does not force an answer. He does not choose for us. He waits.
And someone answers, “Here am I. Send me.”
God still asks in the same way.
He still waits for willing hearts.
Love That Responds
This is not about guilt.
It is about relationship.
Love that only receives eventually grows quiet. Love that responds grows like fire.
God helps us gladly. He listens without tiring. He gives without keeping score. But love also answers. Love shows up.
Sometimes, like any good Father, He speaks more firmly. Not to shame us. To get our attention. To invite us back into partnership.
Frequently Asked Questions
Does God really need our help?
God does not need help because He is weak or limited. He chooses to involve His children because relationship matters to Him. From the beginning, God has worked through people. Not because He must, but because He wants to.
When Scripture calls us co-workers with God, it is not placing a burden on us. It is offering dignity. God invites us to share in what He is doing so we can grow, learn, and belong. Helping God does not mean carrying His burden. It means walking with Him.
When God asks for time, trust, obedience, or care for others, He is not collecting payment. He is inviting partnership. Saying yes changes us. It grows trust. It deepens love. God remains God whether we respond or not, but our response shapes who we become.
What if I feel too busy or unsure to respond?
Feeling busy is part of being human. Feeling unsure is part of growing. Neither disqualifies you.
God does not wait for perfect schedules or perfect confidence before asking. He waits for honesty. In Scripture, when God asked, “Who will go for us?” (Isaiah 6:8) He did not demand readiness. He waited for willingness.
Responding does not have to be big. It can be small and simple. One step. One yes. One moment of attention. Over time, these small responses build confidence and trust.
Willingness grows through use. Fear shrinks when response becomes habit. God does not force us. He invites us. He remains patient while we learn to answer.
Closing Reflection
Can I encourage you not to wait until the Lord needs to take a firmer stance with you to get your attention and help when it comes to His kingdom and His needs? You are a key factor in the plans and purposes He has for the establishment of His kingdom on earth. As much as He is a DAD that is always willing to help you in your times of need, how about being willing to help Him in His time of need.
He needs you.
He needs you too!
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I’m Yvonne van Wyk, a Christian author, Bible teacher, and business owner. Through God Enchantment, I explore how faith meets wonder and how Scripture comes alive in everyday life. I also serve as CEO of SA Golden Homes and founded Zahavah Studio, an SEO and content writing company. My heart is to reveal the beauty of God’s presence in both work and worship.
Thanks for the message. Although I know that our Father loves us I never thought of him needing me or me availing myself for him to use me as a vessel. I ask for what I need and give thanks for all he does for me but if it takes longer than I expected I get blinded with impatience and anger for no apparent reason
Hi Figgy
He needs you. You are part of His great plan and a piece of the mystery of heaven. Jesus operates in and through you to the world around you. That’s how precious you are.